Attachment Bond Breach Repair.

We can repair an attachment bond breach. We say to our care giver, “I am so angry with you that I want to pull out your eyeballs and stab you in the heart.”
The angelic care giver would say, “Oh My! I am so glad you told me this. I had no idea I hurt you so badly.” Then our care giver would say, “Please tell me more about your anger and what it wants to do to me. Let me know what I did to hurt you so much.”
Then we’d tell them exactly those things. Then they’d say, “I am so sorry and I’ll work on not doing that again.” So the topic can be spoken and repaired any time it recurs. We all know it will recur, we’re human. Still, the attachment bond breach is repaired.
As we imagine, this is not common. Most care givers, parents, teachers, bosses, elders, do not want to hear our anger and rage toward them. They want us to be quiet about it and not show our emotions. This is the pattern their care givers used to contain the same problems when they grew up. So then we have generations of impaired relations and impaired emotional closeness. We have generations of lonely people.

Awareness Practice to Stay Connected to Experience.

When we work with the after math of the heart burn of cruel fate we focus on energy rousal. We bypass the memory of clear facts. Some facts can over load us. Energy flow can often return without our need to delve onto the blow by blow facts of the trauma too deeply. We may chew over a return to resiliency. We affirm in a muted and full way of the trauma as we work mostly with clear awareness and image.
Events of trauma often imply a clash with death. As such, they evoke big time,' major responses. Our change toward growth allows us to deepen our sense of self and others. Our long, steep healing path can be a "wakening" to fallow resources and a sense of empowerment. With the help of these new allies, we can open more than one portal to rebirth. We can attain an higher sense of aliveness and flow. What we go thru can genuinely waken our spirit, one that allows us to hook up with our world.
"If we bring forth what is inside of us,
What we bring forth will save us.
If we don't bring forth what's inside us,
What we don't bring forth will destroy us." The Gnostics

Touch Hunger = Neurotic Body Smog - Brain Fog.

Touch hunger is a physiological status with a medical and psychiatric label. It's the failure to thrive' syndrome. Cutaneous deprivation will affect our Immunity, Sleep and Intimacy.
We get fitful, on guard and wary, and suffer a deep, harsh sense of loneliness. We're hyper sensitive to temperature changes as our blood circulation ebbs. Then too, we notice our loss of touch sense. Our skin gets numb. If we seek too much rest, touch hunger causes muscle damage. This shows mostly in our shoulders and back. We're always tensed to ward off one or both pains.
1.) A toxic touch.
2.) A rejection of our need.
If we're physically active, we seem to suffer less of this. A body work out regime keeps our fascia mesh from being stiff and achey. A body work out regime keeps our muscles from atrophy. This same muscle action helps us work off the stress locked in our bodies.

To See Clearly.

What trains our sights on our parallel inner worlds of body, mind, and spirit - where the roots of style lie - to see clearly. Laserlike, it illuminates our inner parts, whether they are muscle, fascia, and fluid or of thought, emotion, and impulse. To see clearly helps us tell apart our thoughts, behaviors, and motions as style. It up grades our ability to query ourselves with cogent focus. From "Why does this happen to me?" We evolve to a query of more depth, such as, "What do these events have to tell me?"
Still, a clear notion of logic that does not travel beyond our mind seldom sets up change. Our body houses our affect depot too. Yet, it might not absorb our insight. Self care acts thru the medium of our body. We see clearly to even deeper levels. Thru self care, we blend and go thru, with our body and heart what we, by logic, know to be true.
Yet even insight isn't enough to break free of old styles. We often have a moment when we're ready to change yet find ourselves held jailed by an unseen force. What is this unseen force? Why does it paralyze us, so maddeningly, just when we're ready to surge ahead?

Fearlessness - Leap of Faith.

Part of the lure of old styles is the belief that "the devil we know is better than the one we don't." We go out of our way to prefer the familiar to the unknown.
The alluring nature of style contributes to this. It is artful, and magic. It mesmerizes us with endless repetitions of a pattern. It polishes its deep groove. It deftly conceals the fears, needs, and beliefs that lie beneath.
To change styles requires fearlessness. Our leap of faith helps us face the unknown. When we cut off a toxic relation, we might worry if we can find someone else. Yet without the distraction of the relation, we face deeper issues. Do we keep feelings of shame or ugly doubt that lead us into the relation in the first place? Thru our fearless leap of faith, we learn to put up with nasty sense inputs, like grief. We let them pass so we don't resort to the comfort of old styles.

Our Boundary Seeds Move.

Times of ecstasy happen without our effort. They come from hidden places inside our being. They are as normal as our times to sleep and to breathe. We return to our origin and remain where we have always been.
We were conceived in an act of pleasure. Ecstasy is in us by design. The moment the sperm met the egg in our mother's womb the promise of ecstasy arises. It exists inside us right now as a potential force. It's likely to create joy within. It's likely to live a life cut like a wished for jewel. It's likely to reflect who we are, to radiate an energy that heals and enchants. Every step we take carries the possibility of such a wakening. Every breath we take carries the possibility of such a wakening.

Our Whole Being Is Right There.

When we just notice, what does occur to our alignment in a particular intimate time or to our breath during body love, our experience deepens. We can be mindful in that same way while loving each other with our whole bodies. It can transform what might seem like a daunting task into a satisfying interlude.
Body love is a fully sensual set of events. We see our loved one. We feel them. We smell them. We even hear them, because we listen to our loved ones body. Our whole being is right there with our loved one.
Just notice what occurs as we find kinds of caresses. We may spawn creative ideas in body love. Let's not be afraid to handle every place and part before we go on. Ask what any body part should feel like when ready. Hold them in our hands. Notice their texture. How does they smell? Are they soft, smooth, hard, rough? Then try to imagine how it might taste and what senses could enhance it. Body love is a blank canvas. Our kind of caresses are our paints. We are the artist.