Allergic To Our Attachment.
Oh, our self seems icky, it all shifts. We try to sense what our world expects us to do. So we glean enough clues about how our system' or other' wishes us to act, we can play that role for a very long time. We often seek help at the behest of some one else. We may seek therapy, information or support, with only the vaguest notion about what, if anything, is wrong. So we do not notice that nothing happens. We do not get better. We watch closely. We notice that our cooperation, in itself, serves to keep our others,' if not our world, away. A focused confrontation or intrusion will not help either. We do not easily trust intimacy. If too much closeness occurs, we will leave. Now we have the big dilemma!! If we go on with things as usual, nothing will happen, but if anyone labors to point out that nothing is happening, we will leave!! We begin to heed that some thing is wrong when we blandly discuss topics that sound laden with drastic feelings. We note, and may report, fierce feelings, but we just do not show them.