Balance Dependence . . . and Independence.

As human infants we're the most helpless mammal on Earth. We fully rely on our care givers to exist. Our label is " We' not me'." As we shift to needed levels of free will,' we start to test the waters of independence. These times are stages when we begin to harbor the notion of a separate "Me." We need to assert a huge dollop of rules over our own lives. We need to form our unique sense of who we are. We need to set up our own ways to choose. Our care givers will hear the word "No" more. We'll assert our own taste and notion of what suits us. With too many "No's" our independence can be stifled. Not enough "No's" leads to poor boundaries. This is a series of steps. It'll help balance our dependence with independence. This goes on thru our early times. It peaks while we boost our search for independence and as we form our identity. We must disengage from primal care givers in preparation for independent living.