Our DNA Belief Bundle.
We come into this world with a certain DNA belief bundle. DNA forms our belief bundle in the womb. We have lungs we can't use in the womb. They're created with the DNA belief of breathable air upon birth. We have eyes, which can't see in the womb. They're designed with the DNA belief of sight. Our ears are designed for the DNA belief of sound. Our mouths and tongues for the DNA belief of taste. All parts of our body, including our muscles, gut system, they design all with DNA belief of use outside the womb, but inside, they're useless.
The largest organ in our body is our skin. When we're born, it has the DNA belief of touch. It craves touch. Watch us as a child. We examine everything with our hands and all our senses. With this tactile receptor covering our entire body, the divine designs it to be touched and to touch, awaiting input upon birth. Touch gives us information at first, hot, cold, and texture. Touch gives us information from the moment of birth about our world, including the touch of those who care for us and how they touch us. Many of us have palpable memories of being held by our care givers. Infants deprived of touch after birth usually dies. It isn't much different with us. Touch is part of our DNA belief bundle upon birth. It's usually given by our parents and care givers thruout our lives.

We're Knitted Inside.
Let's do longer stretches. They build healthful, permanent changes. They build a richer value into our fascia. These fascia bind our muscles. We use longer, fun, body motions. If we keep on we'll hold our poses for short periods. We'll get a nice sense of release. Still, we aren't going to get the muscle structure shifts. These are the shifts that add up to a long range boost in flexibility.
If we hold heart warmed, novel moves 90 to 120 seconds. Then we change the "ground substance" of our fascia. Ground substance is our non fibrous, gel like' binding agent. Our DNA embeds collagen and elastin in our fibrous connective tissues. Our ground substance can stabilize and lubricate our connective tissue. If this pith is tight or sludgy it can limit how we flex. It can speed the rate we age. Longer stretches, of sweet motives, do set off healthy, long range changes. These become the juicy flexes of our fascia. Almost every playful body motion will improve the cellular quality of this varied and vital tissue of ours.

Allergic To Our Attachment.
Oh, our self seems icky, it all shifts. We try to sense what our world expects us to do. So we glean enough clues about how our system' or other' wishes us to act, we can play that role for a very long time. We often seek help at the behest of some one else. We may seek therapy, information or support, with only the vaguest notion about what, if anything, is wrong. So we do not notice that nothing happens. We do not get better. We watch closely. We notice that our cooperation, in itself, serves to keep our others,' if not our world, away. A focused confrontation or intrusion will not help either. We do not easily trust intimacy. If too much closeness occurs, we will leave. Now we have the big dilemma!! If we go on with things as usual, nothing will happen, but if anyone labors to point out that nothing is happening, we will leave!! We begin to heed that some thing is wrong when we blandly discuss topics that sound laden with drastic feelings. We note, and may report, fierce feelings, but we just do not show them.

Dissociate, Numb Out, Dismiss or Deny.
Let's assume that most of our psycho pathology is linked to multi, scarey hidden trauma. We seek to cope with on going, needed, intra - familial hard times. It's a sample of our best efforts. We labor under a short supply of basic need care. It's linked to never ending snubs. We know that a major result of these ways is to adapt. We create long term, boxed off, affect, ideas, acts, and sense inputs. We know this as dissociation.
We deem all these as a threat. Our sense of having a psyche where we can watch all the moving parts. We also deem all of them as a threat to trust in our vital attachments.
This "dis - integration" of neural input plays havoc with us. It limits our access to basic life level data. We block any emotional, somatic, behavioral and cognitive feed back. Our past life events are hidden. This feed back has high value for us. We need this feed back. We guide our future move by move and moment by moment. In stillness, ecstasy, action or awe we always need this feed back.

Defensive Empathy.
Our soul in love will do as it pleases. It will always surrender. For we surrender to fascination. The delights of our soul are the joys of sagacity and systemic forces. Disbelief in fascination is disbelief in intuition and the force of the world about us. This causes tyranny. To accept fascination is the essence of fated intuition that Qupid conveys . . . through us. It is the only way we realize our faith. Belief in fascination is not easy for it engulfs us. Belief in fascination infers we will accept the battle with fear. Our social - more orthodox - tradition raises us inside of fear.

We want, we want, we deserve!

Foster Fear, Anger, Stress, and Depression.
In too many of our days we think that our circumstances dictate how happy we are. We have a world 'out there' that’s not right! What if that's not the way it is at all? Still, the thoughts in our head control our notion of what happens to us.
They Control Our Very Feelings?
We need more money . . . Our health issues are stupid . . . Our partner should change . . . We’re a failure . . . Our body is too fat . . . Our customers shouldn't talk back . . . Our father was cruel . . . The economy is bad.
Thoughts like these may run thru our mind hundreds of times a day. They foster fear, anger, stress, and depression. The most severe ones are automatic. We don't even know about them!
Let’s Use Humor and Lovingly Incisive Clarity.
We’ll show how we can label and question our stressful thoughts. They cause all the suffering and violence in the world. How can Our Grief Work bring us happy days?
We want to grow big in our personal power. We want to be of greater service to others. We want to find glorious new levels of inner calm. We want to go thru more joy in each day.

Scared or Disguted? Risk. Risk.

Take the Risk of Sharing Us.
Our ‘others’ love what we put forward as the genuine us. Still, we know that it's a facade. They think it's the genuine us! Our ‘others’ basically get to love (or not love) what we give them to love or not love. Are they wrong for loving what we ask them to love?
At some point we have to take charge of this choice. We learn to hide some or all of our true self from others. So now we’ll take a risk and show the real us.
Yes, maybe some our ‘others’ won't love us for who we really are. Yet if we don't come out of hiding, we can be assured that nobody will love us.
If we want to be loved for who we really are, we have to be willing to BE who we really are. We’ll share that with others. We take charge of - carry the burden of - conveying to others who our real self is. Is this scary and risky?
Sure. But it beats hiding our light!