Attachment Bond Breach Repair.

We can repair an attachment bond breach. We say to our care giver, “I am so angry with you that I want to pull out your eyeballs and stab you in the heart.”
The angelic care giver would say, “Oh My! I am so glad you told me this. I had no idea I hurt you so badly.” Then our care giver would say, “Please tell me more about your anger and what it wants to do to me. Let me know what I did to hurt you so much.”
Then we’d tell them exactly those things. Then they’d say, “I am so sorry and I’ll work on not doing that again.” So the topic can be spoken and repaired any time it recurs. We all know it will recur, we’re human. Still, the attachment bond breach is repaired.
As we imagine, this is not common. Most care givers, parents, teachers, bosses, elders, do not want to hear our anger and rage toward them. They want us to be quiet about it and not show our emotions. This is the pattern their care givers used to contain the same problems when they grew up. So then we have generations of impaired relations and impaired emotional closeness. We have generations of lonely people.