The "Rules" of Touch.
As we grow, touch moves from instinct and natural to have an affect base. Touch starts to carry the "weight" of emotions and manners. Social etiquette steps in. We learn the rules of touch by watching our others.' We watch family members interact with touch. We're also told when it is safe to touch and when not. Judgment is passed on touch. To touch fades from our everyday life when we start to walk and get independent.
As a mobile child, we are soon taught that we have good touches and bad touches. We're not to let any one we don't know touch us. Before most of us learn that, our DNA driven moves us toward anyone with open arms. We're ready for embraces and kisses. Then that behavior is taught out of us. To touch has rules. Touch moves from parents to friends as we grow, thru wrestling and fighting, arm and hand holding, as we make touch part of our play.
As a teenager, touch becomes sexual. Few teenagers receive more than compulsory hugs from their parents. Other touches are limited to hand shakes, until a teenager encounters dating, where touching rules' change again.
As an adult, touch only comes from strangers with hugs and hand shakes, or thru intimate relations. Once we've a family, touch fills our life again thru our children. Then our children start to learn that touch has rules. Til grandchildren enter the stage, most touch will come from one person, our partner, or few people, until we die.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Our Internal Knitting.
Connective tissues ( fascia ) bind our body into a whole. It is the most wide spread tissue in our body. It forms an maze of mesh that links all our body parts. It holds discrete bundles of bones, muscles, organs, etc. How it moves our times to become lively body motion? These will enrich the lush cell value of our varied and vital tissue. It transmits our moves. It gives our muscles lubricants and agents that heal. We enjoy our flex. We love to feel free. So let's focus on connective tissue and muscle fascia.
Muscle fascia do affect our flexibility. Fascia makes up as much as 30% of our total muscle mass. It makes up about 41% of our total muscle resistance to motion. Fascia is the stuff that sorts each of our muscle fibers. Fascia makes a bundle of them into work units. It offers structure and transmits force.
We derive many gains from a fun reach: joint lubrication, better healing, more circulation, and extra mobility. These all relate to salubrious stimulation of our fascia. Of all the basic parts of our body which limit our flexibility, it is the one that we can safely stretch. Most every lively motion does enrich the inner health of each cell of our varied and vital fascia.
Connective tissues ( fascia ) bind our body into a whole. It is the most wide spread tissue in our body. It forms an maze of mesh that links all our body parts. It holds discrete bundles of bones, muscles, organs, etc. How it moves our times to become lively body motion? These will enrich the lush cell value of our varied and vital tissue. It transmits our moves. It gives our muscles lubricants and agents that heal. We enjoy our flex. We love to feel free. So let's focus on connective tissue and muscle fascia.
Muscle fascia do affect our flexibility. Fascia makes up as much as 30% of our total muscle mass. It makes up about 41% of our total muscle resistance to motion. Fascia is the stuff that sorts each of our muscle fibers. Fascia makes a bundle of them into work units. It offers structure and transmits force.
We derive many gains from a fun reach: joint lubrication, better healing, more circulation, and extra mobility. These all relate to salubrious stimulation of our fascia. Of all the basic parts of our body which limit our flexibility, it is the one that we can safely stretch. Most every lively motion does enrich the inner health of each cell of our varied and vital fascia.
Liberate Our Deeper Sense of Who We Are.
Let's carve out time to remove our mask. This is the part of us that's not afraid to be bad. By bad we don't mean evil, but we can allay our "Do - We - Dare" mindset. It feels good to be bad once in awhile because it liberates us from our daily cage. It's also freeing to be bad at some new thing. We are not afraid to go beyond our comfort zone. We'll try some other' thing. Few of us are skilled at driving when we first learn or fluid when first peeping' our new gadget. So we play at our new skill and hit a few wrong notes here and there. Still, they're our wrong notes and we enjoy doing what we do . . . just for us.
The stress of people- pleasing and role playing for others can steal our heart away. It makes us an artificial person. We lose our natural self. Who we think we are is tied into seeing ourselves as unique from others. How do we differ? What is our opinion? What do we enjoy doing? What is the gift we wish to give?
Let's not always resist what just burbles from our innards. Self silencing and stifling to keep "the peace" or hold on to dreams that droop come at a great cost to the health and composure of our body and spirit.
We don't need to say what other's want to hear. Still, we do need to hear what others say to simply reply. Envision how light we'd feel and how freely we'd breathe as we move with others without our role mask.
Let's carve out time to remove our mask. This is the part of us that's not afraid to be bad. By bad we don't mean evil, but we can allay our "Do - We - Dare" mindset. It feels good to be bad once in awhile because it liberates us from our daily cage. It's also freeing to be bad at some new thing. We are not afraid to go beyond our comfort zone. We'll try some other' thing. Few of us are skilled at driving when we first learn or fluid when first peeping' our new gadget. So we play at our new skill and hit a few wrong notes here and there. Still, they're our wrong notes and we enjoy doing what we do . . . just for us.
The stress of people- pleasing and role playing for others can steal our heart away. It makes us an artificial person. We lose our natural self. Who we think we are is tied into seeing ourselves as unique from others. How do we differ? What is our opinion? What do we enjoy doing? What is the gift we wish to give?
Let's not always resist what just burbles from our innards. Self silencing and stifling to keep "the peace" or hold on to dreams that droop come at a great cost to the health and composure of our body and spirit.
We don't need to say what other's want to hear. Still, we do need to hear what others say to simply reply. Envision how light we'd feel and how freely we'd breathe as we move with others without our role mask.
We're Alive, Always In Flux.
So who are we, independent of our others' and our world? We haven't anything we can point to within ourselves that we can confidently say is a core essence that will Never' change. We might offer our personality, or values, an introvert, a romantic, or that we have a deep love of beauty. Still, these are descriptors of ways we behave or what motivates us. They aren't who we are.
We can go on with this effort, but we don't find anything we can nail down as "Who we are?" All the things we come up with are superficial and impermanent. We don't have anything we can point to within ourselves that we can confidently say is a core essence that will Never' change.
This idea doesn't say we don't exist. If we walked into a wall, our bodies would bump against it and we'd feel pain. Yes we exist! What it means is that we're constantly changing beings. We're always in flux. We're not permanent. We're not fixed entities.
So who are we, independent of our others' and our world? We haven't anything we can point to within ourselves that we can confidently say is a core essence that will Never' change. We might offer our personality, or values, an introvert, a romantic, or that we have a deep love of beauty. Still, these are descriptors of ways we behave or what motivates us. They aren't who we are.
We can go on with this effort, but we don't find anything we can nail down as "Who we are?" All the things we come up with are superficial and impermanent. We don't have anything we can point to within ourselves that we can confidently say is a core essence that will Never' change.
This idea doesn't say we don't exist. If we walked into a wall, our bodies would bump against it and we'd feel pain. Yes we exist! What it means is that we're constantly changing beings. We're always in flux. We're not permanent. We're not fixed entities.
Let's Explore Somatic Sensations.
Trauma is in our nervous system. Our traumas are not in the event. We now know more fully that long term stress causes body changes. These are deeper and deeper body changes. We now know this means that threat stores trauma in our body. We now can make our close care payoff much better. We'll make sure of body orientation. Body and mind links help us ease pains of Post Trauma Stress Disorder and to over come nasty or ugly life events. Tools help care givers help those of us with trauma, expel bound up' life saving energy. These take in immobility, or freeze,' responses. We can become more active in self care. We set a plan of what we need in our daily agenda. We dump our self protective reflex of fight or flight related to our early threats. We loosen our clench on the rousal in our Autonomic Nervous System. Then we return to our center calm.
Trauma is in our nervous system. Our traumas are not in the event. We now know more fully that long term stress causes body changes. These are deeper and deeper body changes. We now know this means that threat stores trauma in our body. We now can make our close care payoff much better. We'll make sure of body orientation. Body and mind links help us ease pains of Post Trauma Stress Disorder and to over come nasty or ugly life events. Tools help care givers help those of us with trauma, expel bound up' life saving energy. These take in immobility, or freeze,' responses. We can become more active in self care. We set a plan of what we need in our daily agenda. We dump our self protective reflex of fight or flight related to our early threats. We loosen our clench on the rousal in our Autonomic Nervous System. Then we return to our center calm.
Our DNA Belief Bundle.
We come into this world with a certain DNA belief bundle. DNA forms our belief bundle in the womb. We have lungs we can't use in the womb. They're created with the DNA belief of breathable air upon birth. We have eyes, which can't see in the womb. They're designed with the DNA belief of sight. Our ears are designed for the DNA belief of sound. Our mouths and tongues for the DNA belief of taste. All parts of our body, including our muscles, gut system, they design all with DNA belief of use outside the womb, but inside, they're useless.
The largest organ in our body is our skin. When we're born, it has the DNA belief of touch. It craves touch. Watch us as a child. We examine everything with our hands and all our senses. With this tactile receptor covering our entire body, the divine designs it to be touched and to touch, awaiting input upon birth. Touch gives us information at first, hot, cold, and texture. Touch gives us information from the moment of birth about our world, including the touch of those who care for us and how they touch us. Many of us have palpable memories of being held by our care givers. Infants deprived of touch after birth usually dies. It isn't much different with us. Touch is part of our DNA belief bundle upon birth. It's usually given by our parents and care givers thruout our lives.
We come into this world with a certain DNA belief bundle. DNA forms our belief bundle in the womb. We have lungs we can't use in the womb. They're created with the DNA belief of breathable air upon birth. We have eyes, which can't see in the womb. They're designed with the DNA belief of sight. Our ears are designed for the DNA belief of sound. Our mouths and tongues for the DNA belief of taste. All parts of our body, including our muscles, gut system, they design all with DNA belief of use outside the womb, but inside, they're useless.
The largest organ in our body is our skin. When we're born, it has the DNA belief of touch. It craves touch. Watch us as a child. We examine everything with our hands and all our senses. With this tactile receptor covering our entire body, the divine designs it to be touched and to touch, awaiting input upon birth. Touch gives us information at first, hot, cold, and texture. Touch gives us information from the moment of birth about our world, including the touch of those who care for us and how they touch us. Many of us have palpable memories of being held by our care givers. Infants deprived of touch after birth usually dies. It isn't much different with us. Touch is part of our DNA belief bundle upon birth. It's usually given by our parents and care givers thruout our lives.
We're Knitted Inside.
Let's do longer stretches. They build healthful, permanent changes. They build a richer value into our fascia. These fascia bind our muscles. We use longer, fun, body motions. If we keep on we'll hold our poses for short periods. We'll get a nice sense of release. Still, we aren't going to get the muscle structure shifts. These are the shifts that add up to a long range boost in flexibility.
If we hold heart warmed, novel moves 90 to 120 seconds. Then we change the "ground substance" of our fascia. Ground substance is our non fibrous, gel like' binding agent. Our DNA embeds collagen and elastin in our fibrous connective tissues. Our ground substance can stabilize and lubricate our connective tissue. If this pith is tight or sludgy it can limit how we flex. It can speed the rate we age. Longer stretches, of sweet motives, do set off healthy, long range changes. These become the juicy flexes of our fascia. Almost every playful body motion will improve the cellular quality of this varied and vital tissue of ours.
Let's do longer stretches. They build healthful, permanent changes. They build a richer value into our fascia. These fascia bind our muscles. We use longer, fun, body motions. If we keep on we'll hold our poses for short periods. We'll get a nice sense of release. Still, we aren't going to get the muscle structure shifts. These are the shifts that add up to a long range boost in flexibility.
If we hold heart warmed, novel moves 90 to 120 seconds. Then we change the "ground substance" of our fascia. Ground substance is our non fibrous, gel like' binding agent. Our DNA embeds collagen and elastin in our fibrous connective tissues. Our ground substance can stabilize and lubricate our connective tissue. If this pith is tight or sludgy it can limit how we flex. It can speed the rate we age. Longer stretches, of sweet motives, do set off healthy, long range changes. These become the juicy flexes of our fascia. Almost every playful body motion will improve the cellular quality of this varied and vital tissue of ours.
Allergic To Our Attachment.
Oh, our self seems icky, it all shifts. We try to sense what our world expects us to do. So we glean enough clues about how our system' or other' wishes us to act, we can play that role for a very long time. We often seek help at the behest of some one else. We may seek therapy, information or support, with only the vaguest notion about what, if anything, is wrong. So we do not notice that nothing happens. We do not get better. We watch closely. We notice that our cooperation, in itself, serves to keep our others,' if not our world, away. A focused confrontation or intrusion will not help either. We do not easily trust intimacy. If too much closeness occurs, we will leave. Now we have the big dilemma!! If we go on with things as usual, nothing will happen, but if anyone labors to point out that nothing is happening, we will leave!! We begin to heed that some thing is wrong when we blandly discuss topics that sound laden with drastic feelings. We note, and may report, fierce feelings, but we just do not show them.
Oh, our self seems icky, it all shifts. We try to sense what our world expects us to do. So we glean enough clues about how our system' or other' wishes us to act, we can play that role for a very long time. We often seek help at the behest of some one else. We may seek therapy, information or support, with only the vaguest notion about what, if anything, is wrong. So we do not notice that nothing happens. We do not get better. We watch closely. We notice that our cooperation, in itself, serves to keep our others,' if not our world, away. A focused confrontation or intrusion will not help either. We do not easily trust intimacy. If too much closeness occurs, we will leave. Now we have the big dilemma!! If we go on with things as usual, nothing will happen, but if anyone labors to point out that nothing is happening, we will leave!! We begin to heed that some thing is wrong when we blandly discuss topics that sound laden with drastic feelings. We note, and may report, fierce feelings, but we just do not show them.
Dissociate, Numb Out, Dismiss or Deny.
Let's assume that most of our psycho pathology is linked to multi, scarey hidden trauma. We seek to cope with on going, needed, intra - familial hard times. It's a sample of our best efforts. We labor under a short supply of basic need care. It's linked to never ending snubs. We know that a major result of these ways is to adapt. We create long term, boxed off, affect, ideas, acts, and sense inputs. We know this as dissociation.
We deem all these as a threat. Our sense of having a psyche where we can watch all the moving parts. We also deem all of them as a threat to trust in our vital attachments.
This "dis - integration" of neural input plays havoc with us. It limits our access to basic life level data. We block any emotional, somatic, behavioral and cognitive feed back. Our past life events are hidden. This feed back has high value for us. We need this feed back. We guide our future move by move and moment by moment. In stillness, ecstasy, action or awe we always need this feed back.
Let's assume that most of our psycho pathology is linked to multi, scarey hidden trauma. We seek to cope with on going, needed, intra - familial hard times. It's a sample of our best efforts. We labor under a short supply of basic need care. It's linked to never ending snubs. We know that a major result of these ways is to adapt. We create long term, boxed off, affect, ideas, acts, and sense inputs. We know this as dissociation.
We deem all these as a threat. Our sense of having a psyche where we can watch all the moving parts. We also deem all of them as a threat to trust in our vital attachments.
This "dis - integration" of neural input plays havoc with us. It limits our access to basic life level data. We block any emotional, somatic, behavioral and cognitive feed back. Our past life events are hidden. This feed back has high value for us. We need this feed back. We guide our future move by move and moment by moment. In stillness, ecstasy, action or awe we always need this feed back.
Defensive Empathy.
Our soul in love will do as it pleases. It will always surrender. For we surrender to fascination. The delights of our soul are the joys of sagacity and systemic forces. Disbelief in fascination is disbelief in intuition and the force of the world about us. This causes tyranny. To accept fascination is the essence of fated intuition that Qupid conveys . . . through us. It is the only way we realize our faith. Belief in fascination is not easy for it engulfs us. Belief in fascination infers we will accept the battle with fear. Our social - more orthodox - tradition raises us inside of fear.
Our soul in love will do as it pleases. It will always surrender. For we surrender to fascination. The delights of our soul are the joys of sagacity and systemic forces. Disbelief in fascination is disbelief in intuition and the force of the world about us. This causes tyranny. To accept fascination is the essence of fated intuition that Qupid conveys . . . through us. It is the only way we realize our faith. Belief in fascination is not easy for it engulfs us. Belief in fascination infers we will accept the battle with fear. Our social - more orthodox - tradition raises us inside of fear.
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